Maria Lizza Bowen

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We are all in the process of becoming something else.

Everything Changes

Change is often perceived as a daunting and uncomfortable prospect for many of us. The unknown can cause feelings of anxiety, fear, and stress that prevent us from fully embracing change. The fear of the unknown can be so intense that some of us might prefer to stay in a stagnant or even negative situation rather than take the risk of pursuing change.

On the other hand, change can be seen as a chance for growth, self-discovery, and development. It presents an opportunity to explore new possibilities, ideas, and perspectives, challenge oneself, and learn new skills and knowledge. It allows us to break free from old habits, patterns, and routines that may not be serving our best interests. Change allows us to take proactive steps toward achieving our goals and aspirations.

Below are some steps that can assist you in welcoming change, whether you're currently struggling with a challenging situation or just looking for ways to grow and evolve as a person.

Step 1: Acknowledge that everything changes.

Some experiences seem to last forever, especially when waiting in line or being stuck in a dead-end job. When we find ourselves in challenging situations, maybe not knowing if we can ever escape an abusive marriage or having to deal with the aftermath of a debilitating accident, we think that nothing will ever change. The beauty of living in this world that we live in is that things do indeed change.

Step 2: Recognize the opportunities for change.

One crucial opportunity to acknowledge the need for change is when you find yourself feeling unhappy or unfulfilled in certain areas of your life. These feelings of discontent can serve as powerful indicators that something needs to change.

Often, unhappiness arises when there is a misalignment between our current circumstances and our values, desires, or aspirations. This misalignment can manifest in various aspects of our lives, such as relationships, careers, health, or personal growth. When we feel unhappy, it is a sign that there is a gap between where we are now and where we want to be.

Step 3: Change negative thought patterns.

When you catch yourself rummaging through negative experiences, become aware of what you are doing to yourself. Instead of reliving negative experiences, change your thoughts into positive ones. Reimagine a new positive ending and let that be your last thought.

Step 4: Embrace your personal growth and change.

Others may only know a past version of you, but you have changed and learned from your experiences. Everyone grows and learns at their own pace. If someone continues to hurt you, understand that it is not their fault or yours. Reflect on the lessons you can learn from situations without blame, allowing for a clearer perspective and transformation.

Step 5: Foster compassion and understanding towards others.

Rather than harboring hatred towards those who have caused you pain, see them as partners in your journey of self-growth. Understand that their experiences have shaped their perspective. Look inward and discover the lessons within when someone hurts you. Your newfound clarity will foster compassion towards others, even when you initially feel hurt by their actions or words.

Reflect

Remember, you are not the same person you were last year, 5 years ago, or 10 years ago. You do not need to fit into a mold that someone held of you a long time ago. Give yourself permission to be who you are today – and don’t forget, that will change too! Being aware of your power to influence your own existence is life-altering. By living consciously, being present, and pursuing our passions, we can bring about positive transformations. When you understand yourself better, your problems will dissolve with less effort than you expect.

 

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